Evolution of a Weekend.
In Pictures.

Monday, April 20, 2009

This last weekend was, well, interesting.

On Friday, I had a date planned with my roommate. Since I will be leaving Seattle before long, we have decided to spend as much time together out on the town and inside in our pajamas as possible. However, on Thursday my roomie got into a fight with her boyfriend and this, obviously, affected her mood. So... Friday evening rolled around and I couldn't get my very pretty and very grumpy roommate out of her bed. I came up with many ideas to try and lure her out.

"Boo Boo (I sometimes call her this), we could go out to a movie. We could go to our favorite sushi restaurant. We could go out to the bars and dance on tables. (I am very uncoordinated with very wobbly ankles, so I was hoping this wouldn't be the one thing that roused her interest.) We could stay in and eat junk food and rent movies. We could have a flower child photo shoot. We could go eat appetizers at the restaurant on top of the Space Needle. We could go down to the lake. We could call Todd and see if he will let us swim in his pool."

Nothing, and I mean nothing, was working. As we were talking, I was reading blogs on my laptop. Eve's blog, Sunny Night, features the song "Around the Bend" by The Asteroids Galaxy Tour. (Check out the song and super cool video here.) Like a gift from the heavens, my roomie looked up and said in an almost excited tone, "I like that song. What is it?" (Thank you Eve!) We then went and watched the video repeatedly and decided we would like to someday make our own video to it. (Coming soon to my blog, I'm sure.) She then said, "Yeah, let's call Todd and see if we can go swimming."

{Todd is our very good and hilarious friend. That guy has some of the funniest one-liners in the world.}

An hour later, we were dressed up with no place to go and Todd had just arrived at our house. Turns out, his pool closes early. We weren't sure what we were in for, but decided to go get some good food and drinks.

We went to dinner at Quinn's.

Todd, and the ladies, were
surprised by the man dressed
in a duck costume protesting
outside our window.

We then headed up the street to one of our favorite bars, the Cha Cha. I can't say for certain, but tequila may have been involved. It just may have... Then, sensing the end of my roomie's faux good mood, we ventured home and did what any sane, self-respecting and somewhat tipsy gals plus good guy friend would do: we took pictures of ourselves.

Next, we made up a bed for Todd in our living room and I had a slumber party with my roommate in her room because, at this point, she was just so sad. In the morning, it was a gorgeous day and we walked to breakfast and oohed and ahhed at all the flowers.

Things went south after breakfast. My roommate called her boyfriend. She texted him. Twice. She didn't hear anything. As you can imagine, she was very sad... My sister was attending a prom disguised as an auction for my nephew's school and needed to make a Forever 31, I mean 21, run. So, all four of us hopped in the car.

Unfortunately, not even shopping could cheer up the roomie. Although I tried to mostly hide it, the trip clearly made me very happy. Then we rushed home to help my sister Monica get ready for the prom. (My sister was once Homecoming Queen, for the record.)

(This is my sister and her husband
+ her husband's brother, Brian,
and his wife, Yen, before the prom.
Don't they look great?)

I had to go to work Saturday evening and Todd decided to stay with my roommate and entertain her (he's very entertaining) while I was gone. Ladies, you know when you're so sad and consumed with heartache that you can't stand the thought of being alone? This is where she was at and it was our job, as her friends, to try and make her feel better. I left Todd with very stern instructions. "Take her to a movie. Go to the store and get her favorite comfort foods. Don't drink very much. This will only make things worse. I'll be home soon. Call me if you need me." (A big thank you to Todd. He's a great friend.)

A few hours later, I got the call. Todd whispered, "I don't know what to do. She's so sad." Since he does not have the same years of education in women and heartbreak as I have, I gave him some directions. After hearing the loud commotion in the background and realizing they were indeed at a bar, I yelled, "Get out of there!" (I'm a believer that drinking makes you more of what you already are. Start the night out sad and drinking will turn you into that girl crying at the bar.) I then told him to go to the grocery store and get Beecher's award winning macaroni & cheese. I'm not kidding. It is award winning and it is a.m.a.z.i.n.g. I then told him to go to the video store and rent SNL's Best of Will Ferrell and Best of Molly Shannon. When I came home a few hours later to see they had instead rented Hancock, I was not pleased.

That night, after admiring my roommate's freshly cut bangs and helping myself to some of the most mouth watering mac-n-cheese in the world, I put my friend to bed. I told her that someday she'll look back on this and not believe that she let this man make her feel this bad. I tucked her in and told her how beautiful she is and how much I love her. I told her that if she needed to in the night, if things got too bad, that I would come up and sleep in her bed with her. I told her that someday she will be adored in the way she has always deserved. She said she didn't know if she believed that and so I told her that I would believe enough for the both of us. Then I hugged her and tiptoed downstairs to my room.

In the quiet and dark of my own room, I remembered being in the same place my friend is in and I silently thanked the universe for not being there now.

The next day, she met up with the boyfriend. (Side note: It's not that I think he is a bad guy, but I want only what will make my friend really happy. I will say, however, that I have dreamed about angrily yelling at him since.) He is still her boyfriend and I still know that she deserves better, just as she has known when I have deserved better. It's like the lovely Elizabeth Marie said over at It's Unbeweavable!, it's about knowing your own worth (you said it, sister). I think it's also about having the courage to free yourself from the pain of loving someone who can't love you back.

Dear Roomie, you are worth so much more than you know. Someday, you will know how wonderful you are. I promise you that. Whatever happens, I'll love you through it all.

* PS) If you decide to veto this post, you absolutely hold that power. *


  1. :( poor roomie! i hope everything works out for her soon.

    ugh. that's just the absolute worst.

  2. Hilarious on so many levels... oh the drama of dating - makes me miss my 20's! You're in a fabulous city for all the fun. Thanks for sharing!!!

  3. Kathleen!!! OMG!!! This blog is so perfect...I am so glad your roomie has friends like you. I read this blog over and over last night from my phone but I couldn't comment-stupid blogger!
    You are so fabulous...I think we just might be bff's now haha. And gabby too!

    Thank you for your kind words...it's an up and down battle for me right now but you really have lifted my spirits. I was laughing and crying in bed last night reading this.

    Have an unbeweavable day gorgeous! <3
    Oh...and all of your outfits are so FIERCE. I suggest a fashion blog! :)

    p.s...I'm gonna find myself a HOTTIE...trust me, that wasn't the first time I've heard that. Troll. jk...kinda. XO

  4. Faux fois, dai gras. Foo foo fa. Baby duck a-ha!

    Thanks for the kind words Kathleen. I felt like a bit of a court jester, but, aside from the fact that Katie was down, I enjoyed seeing you guys again. It was fun to read in the daylight in your living room, and let my mind wander a bit.

    I'm really going to muss our little triumvirate of power when you go away. You guys are the greatest!!

  5. eeek! thank you for the comment barrage, kathleen! it seriously made my day! :)

    i can't wait to catch up on all your archives soon too! :)

  6. Thank you, friends! I heart comments soo much!

    Jody, I just turned 31 and am hoping the drama will continue to decrease more and more. I think it might just be the drama of being single though!

    Elizabeth Marie - You, Gabby and I can be the 3 Musketeers! I'll hop a plane to Cali and show up at your door. You'll say, "Um, I was kidding. You're a stalker." Or you guys can visit me someday. I'm about to move to Vegas and I know you both are frequent visitors! Things will get better, I promise you that. I can't wait to see your photos. Oh, and what you said about my clothes MADE MY WEEK! I can dress it up when I need to, but I usually dress like I've just crawled out of a storm cellar! (I just don't take pics on those days!) You are soo sweet and fantastic.

    Jasmine - What can I say? When I find a blog I like, I make it a mission to read all of it and comment. That's how I roll! I had to stop myself last night reading your blog and go to bed!

    Todd - I'm going to miss the heck out of you, but know we'll be seeing each other lots. Come to Vegas and bring a Snuggie!

  7. You are such a good friend to your roomie! Seriously. I am sure we all have had times when our hearts hurt and we just want to stay under the covers. I hope things get brighter for your friend, I'm sure they will. :)

    Uhhh...you know that I'm gonna want to meet you in Vegas, right?? Right right. It shall be awesome. :)

  8. Hawt betches! :)

    You are a true friend, hope everything works out for your roomie!

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