The things I will do when I'm old...
and a few things I will not.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

I've been doing a lot of thinking these last couple of weeks... about the things that matter and the things that don't. Probably like many of you, I often get worked up over the little things that, in the grand scheme of things, really don't mean diddly squat. (Man, I sound just like my mother.) So, lately, when I'm trying to find some perspective, I ask myself what I will think when I'm an old, kooky lady. (I plan to be kooky when I'm old, fyi.)

So, without further adieu...

Someday when I am old and rocking in my chair (Madonna music playing in the background, slippers on my feet and a stiff drink in hand) and looking back on my life, I think I will...

- miss my mother and long for the conversations about life we once had.

- tell stories about all the silly, brave, hopeful, sad things I once did for love.

- be incredibly grateful for every single laugh line and the masterpiece they've left on my face.

- steal my grandchildren's candy. (Let's just be honest here.)

- stay in bed all morning reading... with only my coffee and the rain to keep me company.

- treasure my youthful memories of staying out until 4am feeling reckless and alive, but gracefully and happily trade them in for raising a family, loving one good man and getting to know, year after year and wrinkle after wrinkle, who I really am.

- travel the world rocking the babies that people forgot to love.

- eat a lot of pie.

- dance... a lot. For no reason. Even when it makes people uncomfortable. They'll say, "Old lady's dancing again in the supermarket." And they'll be right.

- wish I had loved myself just a little more when I was younger.

When I am old and looking back on my life, I know I will never...

- wish I'd been less generous with my heart.

- wish I'd made more money.

- wish I'd been skinnier.

This list is only just beginning, but I've been thinking about it for days. I want to challenge myself to think about the things that will matter to me when I am old, the things I want to cultivate and care for and the things I want to let slip away.

If there are things you would add to your own list, I would love to hear them.

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  1. LOVE this post. Such a lovely idea! I'm going to start thinking of things...
    And can I just say, "dance" will definitely be on my list, too!

  2. What a fantastic post. I think I would have very similar items on my list, especially the random dancing and staying in bed all morning. I would also add that I will look back on traveling the world and seeing amazing, beautiful places. Traveling is something I am dying to do, and hope to start this summer. I also WON'T wish I had spent more time at work, or worrying about work after the day has ended!

  3. i think this is my favorite post of all time. first that pic of the granny is hilarious. second your list is wonderful. travel the world rocking the babies people forgot to love. ok, tear. that is so special. great post lady.

  4. This is such a great idea and attitude. I'm gonna think about my list too. And I can totally picture you {grandma kathleen} rocking out in the frozen food aisle.

    Also, I WILL make you applesauce when you're here.

  5. I think I would have a lot of the same stuff on my list, if I made a list. Hmm maybe I will. By the way, thank you for all your sweet comments and I'm glad you love the new header.

  6. sigh. kathleen's making me teary-eyed again.

    i love the thought of traveling the world hugging babies, and of dancing. yes, i think there will always be dancing in my life. if i'm not dancing, even if my knees don't work and i have a walker, something is wrong.

    i love your list. time to start thinking about mine...

  7. i found your blog from the lovely gabby and have been enjoying your posts.

    this one is just fantastic... i think i nodded my head in agreement to all of them.
    Favorites ~
    "stay in bed all morning reading... with only my coffee and the rain to keep me company."

    "wish I had loved myself just a little more when I was younger."


    i am so glad i found your blog...

  8. Wonderful post! My step-dad says that when you are feeling stressed about something, stop and ask yourself, "will this matter in five years? Ten?" If the answer is no, then it really doesn't matter.

  9. This is my favorite post of yours! I'm serious...can we be kooky old ladies together dancing in the supermarket stealin candy? We basically do that anyway...haha :) NO WE DONT STEAL.
    This puts so much into perspective right now for me. Thanks for reminding me what really matters. Like seeing you in a few days because we're makin memories lady!!
    Love you!

  10. you are so sweet and have such a great heart...I love this:)

  11. What about wear crazy clothes! I totally want to be an eccentric because I feel like you can do whatever you want when you're old! I think it will be awesome...

  12. This is one damn good idea for a post! And I really hope to look like that lady, just FYI. That'd be just fabulous.

    PS: A little birdie (cough, LIZ, cough cough) told me you'll be in SoCal soon! Um, can we play?!