Our Friendship Made Me Better.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

This last Saturday, my one and only Daniel P came to visit me here in Las Vegas. This was his second trip to Vegas and, unfortunately, I was far less mobile this go round. Luckily, when you share a love with someone like the one Danny and I do, a little handicap can't slow you down.

This trip brought a MUCH needed visit to see Frank Marino's DIVAS. This was my second time seeing this fantastic show and I immediately knew upon first viewing that I HAD to come back with Danny. That night we shared a 32 ounce pina colala (see video below for reference), sang our little hearts out to Cher's "If I Could Turn Back Time" and oohed and ahhed at the Britney impersonator (honestly, that man does Ms. Spears better than Britney herself). Fan-effing-tastic, I tell you. This trip also brought a meal at our beloved Firefly and an introduction for Danny to two of my very favorite spots, Yama Sushi and Don't Tell Mama.

Most importantly, this visit brought some long overdue bonding time with my favorite beautiful boy. You see, Danny and I go back to junior high school (although I vividly remember him rocking a parakeet yellow jacket in the third grade). He and I share a love for R&B music, makeup and all things Sex and the City (he will always be the Samantha to my Carrie). Oh, and let's not forget Madonna. Mr. P and I have taken two of my all time favorite trips together, to Miami and Hollywood, to see Madge in concert and we held hands and cried throughout both shows. Daniel is also my skincare guru and I really don't know how many times I've had to repeatedly ask him if I steam or mask first when giving myself an at home facial. More than that, though, Danny and I share an ability to crack each other up like nobody else can and a deep love for Whitney Houston impersonations, cosmopolitans and each other.

While hanging out and having one of our infamous catchup sessions, Danny asked me a question that I've been thinking about since. He said, "Kathy (and, please, know that only four people in this world are allowed to call me that), how do you think being friends with so many gay men has affected you?" We both thought about it and then made some less than blog appropriate jokes. The question has stayed with me, however. What I didn't say then, but will say now, is that my friendship with Danny has made me better. I was fortunate enough to always have gay and lesbian family friends growing up and my parents stressed that, no matter what, love is love. However, once Danny became not only one of my best friends, but also a part of my family, his struggles became my struggles. And if Danny is refused certain rights, I am not only angry, but my heart aches. You see, I want him standing up there next to me when I get married and, by God, I want to be up there for his wedding. That's what true friendship is. You celebrate each other's successes and you fight for each other. I will fight for Danny. Always. I can't imagine who I would be without him because he is an integral part of my heart and everyone would be lucky to have a friend like him.

You see, when I meet homophobic people, I always think the same thing, "You just don't know. You just haven't been lucky enough to love an incredible gay human being. I hope you are that lucky someday."

So, to Danny, thank you for making me laugh for almost twenty years. I miss you already. As you said when you were here, the three of us (that includes our girl, Carina Jean) saved each other.

Your love is my love, Dan.

To end this post, I have to leave you with Danny and my very favorite skit. Nothing - and I mean nothing - makes us laugh harder.


  1. what a wonderful tribute to your best friend.

    "And if Danny is refused certain rights, I am not only angry, but my heart aches."

    it makes my heart ache for danny and you, and for justin and gregg, my "dannys." we just have to keep being a voice and a vote for them and have faith that our country will start to stand up for civil rights like it did 50 years ago.

    daniel is lucky to have a friend like you.

  2. You two are adorable! I love besties:)

  3. I love this. And I love how you love that Britney. I will see that show...with YOU! That is, if you can handle doing it a third time. Something tells me the answer to that is yes. :)

  4. Because. Bobby. Brown. Dared. Me. To. Do. It.
    Love you two's to Walmart and back.

  5. Thank you so much for commenting, friends. Even though I blog about personal things a lot - who doesn't? - this one felt a lot closer to my heart than others. More than that, thanks for being part of the good fight.

    Ali, HELL YES! C, I love you to Walmart and back.

  6. aw that's so sweet! and it makes me miss one of my bestest friends ever who lives way too far away. also, i can't agree with you enough about how people filled with hate and fear in regards to the lgbt community simply just haven't allowed themselves to get to know the people behind the label. we are all just people, living in all sorts of ways with all sorts of thoughts, feelings, and ideas. why isn't that okay with some people? thanks for spreading the love here on your corner of the blogosphere!

  7. Beautifully written! Aren't old friends the best? This post reminded to call some friends I haven't spoken to in a while.

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